I don't know if you've been paying attention but sex is big right now. What am I saying? Sex is always big. Bondage is big. Sadomasochism is big. BDSM. Discipline is big. It's not all 50 Shades of who-the-fuck-cares either or Nine Inch Nails videos playing the pop industrial music complex of the mid-90's. Yeah, that book's got its place, and Trent Reznor is still as relevant as ever. It's exciting people and creating real conversation no matter how shitty the book is (yes, I read what I could stand of it), but there's something even more important happening. It's nice to know that the MTV generation isn't the only one whipping up interest in pain and pleasure. People are exploring their sexuality in a more open way than ever before. James Franco is exploring the industry and lifestyle behind BDSM in his new documentary Kink. Kink is the safe word that this sex film enthusiasm has needed; a look into the really real of the sexual out-there.
I was exposed to some pretty severe sexual material at a young age. My dear old dad collected smut that was pretty brutal. We're not talking about Playboy, Penthouse or Hustler. I'm talking about some crazy bondage porn. In Black and White. Folks tied up in strange positions and to the point of certain pain. Now while I had found solace in Playboys and Penthouses from an almost too young age (8 or so stolen from a next door neighbor) this was something new and scary and I didn't think I liked it, but I had to see it. To this day I remember still frame image of wholesale pain and I wonder how it effected me at age 12. Hey, maybe my father was ahead of his time or maybe his fascination was the fascination we all have when we see something so new. It's not like he had a library of the stuff either. Just a few mags among others. It was an education and probably a lesson in the ways of the world (the way the world was when you peel back the sitcom). Why do I mention this? Because I think that for many of you a movie like Kink will be "dad's porn stash" in a world where the porn stash is seemingly on the coffee table and you have to dig really deep for the juicy stuff.
Kink is a great movie for the beginner, the curious or the experienced sexual "deviant" (Note: I use that word with great respect and adoration for those willing to dare to be deviants). That doesn't mean that the beginner will be able to identify with what he is seeing on the screen. You best not be penis-phobic (because the cock is on the block). You must realize that there will be violence though I submit that this violence if far less severe than what you'll find in a Hollywood dramatization of a harlequin romance novel. Remember that watching a movie like Kink is about tolerance and finding tolerance while growing an understanding for something that could be so far outside of yourself... or perhaps lurking just beneath the surface.
James Franco has produced and Christina Voros have given us a look behind the curtain, under the drape, inside the box and through the keyhole. It doesn't have to be the ultimate move on the subject to be important or eye opening. Hell, I'm partial to both watching and reading Philosophy in the Bedroom as my exploration of all things sexually perverse or dipping deep into a Vinegar Syndrome Peekarama. It's important because it is put together with discretion and with a unique eye on the subject matter. It isn't as dark you might think. It has more compassion. It's robust with thought provoking imagery and concepts.
Will Kink's exploration of Kink.com turn you on? At times. There are plenty of hot scenes with strange, new teases lurking on every frame, but you might be surprised at how much it isn't about sexuality and is about the professional sexual business that is made up of hard working individuals. Professionals. Creating the fantasy going on behind your eyelids when you close them to daydream.
Pick up Kink now. It's beyond it's tag line: "The 51st Shade of Grey"
In a particularly obscure corner of a business that operates largely out of public view, Kink.com's directors and "models" strive for authenticity. In an enterprise often known for exploitative practices, Kink.com upholds an ironclad set of values to foster an environment that is safe, sane and consensual, even as the bondage-and-discipline and sadomasochistic activities depicted seem to stretch the definition of "pleasure." The people at Kink.com aim to demystify the BDSM lifestyle and to serve as an example and an educational resource for the BDSM community.